In the past five decades, the percentage of marriages that were interracial has skyrocketed from just three percent all the way to nearly 20 percent. Joseph Gish, a Caucasian man whose wife is from China, notes that interracial relationships often come with added
difficulty that can be rooted in the cultural differences and communication.
met his wife Julie for just 6 days in Barcelona before he decided to leave the US and move to China to be with her. Along that ride, he discovered that adapting to a new culture and learning new ways to look at things was much more difficult than he had envisioned.
incident he thought highlighted these differences was the reaction to an event he thought was simple courtesy.
remember one day my wife's cousin had brought his girlfriend over and it was cold outside. I was always taught growing up that you help a woman take off her coat when she comes inside, so that was exactly what I did," Gish said. "Her cousin stared at me like
I was hitting on his girlfriend and my wife even asked me if I liked the girl. I had to explain to them that it was just something I was taught by my family."
incident that occurred was at a dinner party when it was time to make a toast.
remember holding my glass up, taking a sip and then putting the glass down. I was told that in Chinese culture it is considered disrespectful not to finish the entire glass during a toast, so that was also something I had to learn how to do," Gish said.
final adaptation to Chinese culture Gish had to make was how to approach a parental relationship.
I married Julie, her parents really became my parents and I had to earn their approval, which was very difficult," Gish said. "In chinese culture, they treat their parents better than they treat their spouse, and I had to learn that I was supposed to do that
added that the best way to approach this cultural divide is to just be receptive to new things, and above all else, to listen.
men don't listen to their wives enough, or even if they do listen, they don't listen correctly," Gish said. "You have to be thinking how your actions will affect your significant other, and even if it is just a cultural thing, you need to understand that may
well still have an impact.